if you treat your girlfriend more important than you're friends, make sure she knows it. that's my lesson from yesterday. i mean i thought that's what i was doing for the past two weeks. nope! i was way off! and sometimes the problems can all boil down to the words you choose.
"ok babe I'm gonnna go see my friends now."
"why do you put them ahead of me?"
"i don't. i just haven't seen them in two years."
"whabout me?"t a
"i see you a lot. we live together." (this is a very bad thing to say. expect something bad from her now)
"maybe we shouldn't live together."
At that point consider your night over. Either you'll blow up and call out the threat or try to get really, really comforting to make her feel better.
It's tough. It really is. Every guy wants to be a nice guy ( well most) but there is always the inner battle between that and the guy who doesn't get pushed around. You never know where to draw the line.
I guess the toughest thing i've had to learn about the whole relationship thing is the compromise. you just can't win every battle. and i'll admit i'm usually never the first one to give up in any disagreement. that's not really a good thing because i'll contradict anybody about anything, even the dumbest, minute deal. that attitude really helps in comedy, but freakin sucks for girlfriends.
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Aahha boy oh boy, that's so true the NICE GUY vs BE A MAN problem. But I suppose with relationships, it's like the goal is to be a gentleman. Like be strong to the world outside of the relationship, but soft to the world inside. So like you said, if she's being treated better, make sure she realizes it, otherwise, "better" will be "normal" because you should be treating her better than your friends (according to her rules at least).
Hope things worked out in the end though.
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